Types of Conflict in the Workplace

Whether you like it or not at some point you are going to face some type of conflict in the workplace. Below is a list of the most common types of conflict you will face, followed by one of the seven conflict resolution strategies that are outlined in my book Influence Your Way To Success which help you to successfully resolve personality conflicts.

The Four Most Common Types of Conflict In The Workplace

Interdependence Conflicts. A person's job depends on someone else's co-operation, output or input. For example a sales-person is constantly late inputting the monthly sales figures which causes the accountant to be late with her reports.

Differences in Style. People's style for completing a job can differ. For example, one person may just want to get the work done quickly (task oriented), while another is more concerned about having it done a particular way e.g. artistic or by including other people in the project.

Differences in Background/Gender. Conflicts can arise between people because of differences in educational backgrounds, personal experiences, ethnic heritage, gender and political preferences.

Differences in Leadership. Leaders have different styles. Employees who change from one supervisor to another can become confused, for example one leader may be more open and inclusive whilst another may be more directive.

Differences in Personality. This type of conflict is often fueled by emotion and perceptions about somebody else's motives and character. For example a team leader jumps on someone for being late because she perceives the team member as being lazy and inconsiderate. The team member sees the team leader as out to get him.

Dealing With Differences in Personality Types of Conflict In The Workplace

All the types of conflict in the workplace can be messy but it is the last that causes the most grief. Statistics show that 85% of dismissals in the US are due to personality conflicts.

Most of you at some point will experience a personality conflict. So here is possibly the third most important rule to follow if you want to successfully resolve the conflict and improve the relationship. If you want to learn all seven rules you'll need to either download my ebook Influence Your Way to Success for $19.95 or join the Align-Lead-Inspire Club where you can download it for free

There are two types of stories you can tell yourself.

One story puts a halo over your head and enables you to justify to yourself why you have behaved poorly.

The second type of story is the one you tell yourself about others. This story causes you to see devil horns on the heads of others and has you labeling them in a negative fashion, placing you in a downward spiral of animosity toward them. A couple of examples:

Situation/Scenario	Story You Tell
Someone lets you down and it's not the first time.	They are irresponsible and unreliable
You let someone down and it's not the first time.	It's because you've been overworked recently.
Someone cuts you off while driving	They are rude, aggressive and inconsiderate.
You cut someone off while you are driving	It's because you are in a hurry and if you don't catch these lights you'll miss your doctor's appointment
One of your peers buys the boss a birthday card	It's because they are soft-soaping the boss and trying to weasel their way in for a promotion.
You buy your boss a birthday card	It's because you are warm and caring.
Someone flies into a rage at the post office clerk	They are bad-tempered
You fly into a rage at the post office clerk	It's because you're tired and this is the 3rd time you've been here trying to resolve the problem and the post office keeps making the same mistake which is costing you money

Sometimes your stories are completely accurate, but more often than not they are either inaccurate or completely wrong.

The truth is often somewhere in between the story you've told yourself about why the person has acted the way they have and the actual facts.

Subduing your story is important for three reasons:

1. It ensures you don't over-react to a situation
2. You open you up to the possibility of a healthy discussion ... rather than ambushing the other person with your emotions
3. You begin to sift fact from story.

In "Influence Your Way To Success" you learn that your number one goal in any type of conflict is to discover the truth. Subduing your story is one sure step in enabling you to achieve this goal.

Ignore any type of conflict in the workplace, hoping it will go away, is going to cost you. Possibly cost you quite dearly.

If you are a leader in the business it is going to cost you in terms of wasted time listening to people's complaints or you complaining to others about how tough you've got it, lost productivity as people spend more time worrying about the conflict than the organizational goals, absenteeism, health claims, people withdrawing emotionally, employee turnover, aggression and at times even violence.

If you are involved in the conflict you may feel these emotions: discontent, miserableness, distress, frustration,resentment. Unfortunately, generally, most people are not adept at leaving these feelings in the workplace at quitting time, so they trundle along home with them impacting on and often causing conflict and tenseness on the home-front as well.

Is it a luxury to spend money on teaching people how to resolve conflict in the workplace? Absolutely not. It is an exceptionally effective expenditure of your resources.

You help you and your people to be far happier and far more productive when the skills to deal with any type of conflict in the workplace are learnt and mastered.

The beautiful thing is that this type of training is a gift that keeps on giving - not only in the workplace but into the wider community. Sadly most people never truly learn the art of resolving differences and turning them into successful conversations, which often traps them in a life of unhappiness and suffering.