Acceptance and Belonging

Key Messages:

There is a strong link between an individual's performance and his/her sense of acceptance and belonging
The climate of any organization is derived from the values, behaviors and attitudes modelled and promoted by the leader

Research has shown that there is a strong link between self-esteem and acceptance and belonging.

Individuals who feel like they belong, gain security. This sense of security then nurtures self-esteem. Maslow when writing about the Hierarchy of Needs believed that most of society's social problems stemmed from this basic need (for belonging) not being met.

Everyone needs to belong to a group that accepts them. This group can take the form of the family, peers, school work, sporting team, church etc.

The more you feel accepted and adequate, the more effectively you express yourself, act authentically and be fully present.

The climate (culture) of the organization (be it family or business) to which you belong may have either a sense of hostility and fear or a sense of support and goodwill. This culture doesn't happen by accident. It is a product of the behaviors, values and attitudes that are modeled and accepted.

Acceptance and belonging can be promoted within an organization by:

Not accepting put downs in any form - especially negative self-talk

Modeling and expecting only respect all the time

No competing for rewards - tangible (money, gifts) and intangible (status, privileges)

Value diversity - the differences are what make a community stronger

Providing opportunities to discover the interests, capabilities and backgrounds of each individual Promoting inclusion and acceptance - not allowing cliques and sub-cultures to develop

Encouraging inter-relationships and interdependence that promote co-operation

Avoiding comparisons between people

Allow people freedom to control their destiny and be involved in contributing to the success of the organization i.e.no command and control

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